24-04-2022, 09:05 AM
I have never been confused about who I was, and never had the need to make who I was obvious. I just am who I am. No questions or reassurance needed.
I guess if that wasn't the case I might feel differently. It must be an uncomfortable feeling, that confusion. It might be that one way to settle that internal wobbliness is to shout it to the masses, get in their faces so to speak, and by trying to convince the world, convince themself.
I just wish all those confused souls had the confidence I have in knowing and accepting myself for who I am, and proceeding through life accordingly. With all the pros and cons that identity brings with it. Cons especially, because every single one of us has a bunch of those.
Maybe it is confronting those cons that make for the confusion. After all, with sexual identities, the changes within our society are only now being widely recognised. For generations those outside our traditional norms faced serious difficulties, fight or flight level challenges. Along with real social changes come stresses, in that process of acceptance, of making the new part of the normal. Getting used to it. Or not. Like women's liberation, or the upsetting of the patriarchy (bring it on, lol), or not smacking ankle biters, or having neighbours who dress funny, or seeing nice folk on tv say fuck out loud.
Social change is slow and often quiet until it isn't. Maybe for those who need it most being loud and proud and out there is their way of hurrying it up so they too can become ordinary, and just not have to think about it, or fight for it, or be confused ever again.
Like me.
I guess if that wasn't the case I might feel differently. It must be an uncomfortable feeling, that confusion. It might be that one way to settle that internal wobbliness is to shout it to the masses, get in their faces so to speak, and by trying to convince the world, convince themself.
I just wish all those confused souls had the confidence I have in knowing and accepting myself for who I am, and proceeding through life accordingly. With all the pros and cons that identity brings with it. Cons especially, because every single one of us has a bunch of those.
Maybe it is confronting those cons that make for the confusion. After all, with sexual identities, the changes within our society are only now being widely recognised. For generations those outside our traditional norms faced serious difficulties, fight or flight level challenges. Along with real social changes come stresses, in that process of acceptance, of making the new part of the normal. Getting used to it. Or not. Like women's liberation, or the upsetting of the patriarchy (bring it on, lol), or not smacking ankle biters, or having neighbours who dress funny, or seeing nice folk on tv say fuck out loud.
Social change is slow and often quiet until it isn't. Maybe for those who need it most being loud and proud and out there is their way of hurrying it up so they too can become ordinary, and just not have to think about it, or fight for it, or be confused ever again.
Like me.