S. Wiles & S. Hendy, claim against Auckland uni

[Oh_hunnihunni]

Lol, I am laughing because this is all so familiar to me. When I lost my husband to an idiot drunk driver, who walked... I became a zealot in the pursuit of drink drivers. I would happily imagine the bullet in the back of the head option, the crush the car with them in scenario, or public hangings. I had no room for anything resembling understanding. Blow in the machine, go over the limit and bang - end of story..

But then slowly, time rubbed off the sharp bits, and I came to understand that life isn't fair, sometimes awful stuff happens and there is absolutely nothing anyone can do to stop it happening again and again. Eventually I just had to stop being so angry and focus on more positive things. Don't get me wrong, I still despise people who drink and drive. I despise people who drive like fools. And I weep everytime the road toll goes up because I know how it feels to lose someone that way, bone deep, life long.

But we just can't achieve anything positive by ranting, anymore than we can by hand wringing with or without angst. It doesn't win hearts and minds. Some hearts and minds are just beyond winning. And that is why I think humanity is doomed.

So, all we can do is the stuff that is positive for us and leave the rest of them to go to hell in their own handbaskets.

Not our monkeys, not our circus.