19-12-2021, 02:10 PM
I lived in a three generation household for nearly twenty years, and to go from that to living alone was a massive change. But I had been head of that household for so long I had good skills for managing both household and those within it. To shed that responsibility took an adjustment, but now I really enjoy it. I am loathe to go back, in fact when I feel I am being managed into a shared social situation I dig my heels in. I like being all about me. Independence is very cool.
Why can you not live on your own until you choose not to? You can get everything you need delivered, you can get home support for just about everything these days if you need it - I have neighbours in their late 90s with all kinds of challenges, including dementia, and they live alone albeit in a community setting. I have fit and healthy ones too, with or without family, but of limited means. Depending on your financial circumstances you can live in a variety of community options, from the excessively swanky to the very hands off budget friendly version, like ours. There is a waiting list for both kinds though so transitioning involves planning.
If you work out what you want and do your best to put some advance planning in place it does relieve the stress of worrying about the future. If it is only funeral insurance and an advance care directive, or living will that too helps. And when it comes down to it, if you get sick enough the system takes over. At least we have a Get Out of Jail Free card these days...
Why can you not live on your own until you choose not to? You can get everything you need delivered, you can get home support for just about everything these days if you need it - I have neighbours in their late 90s with all kinds of challenges, including dementia, and they live alone albeit in a community setting. I have fit and healthy ones too, with or without family, but of limited means. Depending on your financial circumstances you can live in a variety of community options, from the excessively swanky to the very hands off budget friendly version, like ours. There is a waiting list for both kinds though so transitioning involves planning.
If you work out what you want and do your best to put some advance planning in place it does relieve the stress of worrying about the future. If it is only funeral insurance and an advance care directive, or living will that too helps. And when it comes down to it, if you get sick enough the system takes over. At least we have a Get Out of Jail Free card these days...