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Can we cancel Christmas?? - olwen - 24-12-2021
I hate Christmas, and I have been told that I  can't stay home alone.
Can't someone cancel it?
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - crafters_corner - 24-12-2021
You can stay home alone if you want to. I hate Christmas too. It is not a fun time for me at all. It's too full on, and I don't like that for me.
I've decided I'm not going anywhere. I don't want to go anywhere. I'm staying home. Alone. I will love it.
As I'm getting older, I am learning to say no, without feeling like I am being selfish, because it's not being selfish. It's taking care of yourself and your needs, and not appeasing others.
Sending you a Christmas hug (((HUGS)))
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - olwen - 24-12-2021
My sister refuses to take "no" for an answer.
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - crafters_corner - 24-12-2021
(24-12-2021, 02:54 PM)olwen Wrote: My sister refuses to take  "no" for an answer.Not trying to be rude olwen, but your sister is not hearing you. I see this as being her issue, and not yours.
Maybe you have a voice inside that says you are being selfish to say 'no'. I hope not, because it's truly not selfish.
For me, it was hard to say 'thanks but no thanks'. To see the faces of disappointment did hurt, but I felt strong in what I needed.
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - king1 - 24-12-2021
Ok I just heard, Christmas is officially cancelled... Apparently Santa fell off his sleigh and is now too scaredy pants to get back on it...
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - olwen - 24-12-2021
(24-12-2021, 03:08 PM)crafters_corner Wrote:My sister regards it as part of her role in life to keep me from being a hermit. Quite  tiresome.(24-12-2021, 02:54 PM)olwen Wrote: My sister refuses to take  "no" for an answer.Not trying to be rude olwen, but your sister is not hearing you. I see this as being her issue, and not yours.
Maybe you have a voice inside that says you are being selfish to say 'no'. I hope not, because it's truly not selfish.
For me, it was hard to say 'thanks but no thanks'. To see the faces of disappointment did hurt, but I felt strong in what I needed.
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - Lilith7 - 24-12-2021
(24-12-2021, 03:44 PM)olwen Wrote:She probably means well.(24-12-2021, 03:08 PM)crafters_corner Wrote: Not trying to be rude olwen, but your sister is not hearing you. I see this as being her issue, and not yours.My sister regards it as part of her role in life to keep me from being a hermit. Quite  tiresome.
Maybe you have a voice inside that says you are being selfish to say 'no'. I hope not, because it's truly not selfish.
For me, it was hard to say 'thanks but no thanks'. To see the faces of disappointment did hurt, but I felt strong in what I needed.
I'm not allowed to ignore it either & anyway I've got grandkids & great grandkids who might be upset if i didn't make an appearance at least for an hour or so. With xmas loot, obviously.
Seriously they do understand that I'm not great at social stuff so I'm expected to not stay long; the grandson who feels the same usually brings me home which is his excuse for getting the hell out - its just a few too many people at one time.
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - Olive - 24-12-2021
Tell your sister that you are self-isolating because you may have been exposed to Covid. That should get her off your back.
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - crafters_corner - 24-12-2021
(24-12-2021, 03:44 PM)olwen Wrote:The introvert in me, and the me that suffers anxiety, is happy being a hermit. I know that my family don't really understand, but that's for them to sort out. It's not like I've not explained it a million times. They think I'm not happy. I am happy. I wish they would  leave me be, until I'm ready to face the world. Make me feel guilty, and I will go into my shell.(24-12-2021, 03:08 PM)crafters_corner Wrote: Not trying to be rude olwen, but your sister is not hearing you. I see this as being her issue, and not yours.My sister regards it as part of her role in life to keep me from being a hermit. Quite  tiresome.
Maybe you have a voice inside that says you are being selfish to say 'no'. I hope not, because it's truly not selfish.
For me, it was hard to say 'thanks but no thanks'. To see the faces of disappointment did hurt, but I felt strong in what I needed.
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - Oh_hunnihunni - 24-12-2021
I had four people tell me I couldn't be alone at Christmas.
I told each of them very sweetly to fuck off and die.
Now I get to eat all the chockies myself. Good eh?
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - olwen - 24-12-2021
(24-12-2021, 04:09 PM)Olive Wrote: Tell your sister that you are self-isolating because you may have been exposed to Covid.  That should get her off your back.I considered that. She had a sniffle earlier in the week, and had a test, then had to isolate until she got  the result.  I told her that I would have a test today.
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - Lilith7 - 24-12-2021
(24-12-2021, 04:43 PM)Oh_hunnihunni Wrote: I had four people tell me I couldn't be alone at Christmas.Sounds entirely reasonable to me.
I told each of them very sweetly to fuck off and die.
Now I get to eat all the chockies myself. Good eh?
But I know what would happen if I tried that & those grandkids of mine have had experience digging a grave...
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - Oh_hunnihunni - 24-12-2021
Oh yes, it doesn't work with family. You have to get really serious with them.
Best not...
RE: Can we cancel Christmas?? - Lilith7 - 25-12-2021
(24-12-2021, 06:23 PM)Oh_hunnihunni Wrote: Oh yes, it doesn't work with family. You have to get really serious with them.Well. We had xmas in the park this year - great idea, worked really well for all of us.
Best not...
And then it started to get windy & cold; I was wearing an opshop special pair of trousers  with an Indian print design. The fabric is quite thin.
A granddaughter put a rug over my lap!
Its a lucky thing for her that I'm quite fond of my grandkids, although it might have been better if she hadn't smirked as she did so. For her...
